So today, I would like to share in my podcast a passage from my book. The reason I chose that is because I was thinking of complicated situations that come up to us and how sometimes, we put the energy on the things that we’re not able to change or control and all the energy will go into those things. Like, for example, you can’t change someone. They could only be helped to change if they are open to change. Sometimes, we all do put energy on people that we know are not willing to change and that they feel that we are completely wrong. Yet, we decide to just put a tremendous amount of effort and energy into breaking down that brick wall. So today, I want you to reflect on that. This is from Chapter 6 in my book, this is how it goes “Do your best and forget the rest”. You cannot let yourself become a mess whenever you face a complicated situation. During my divorce, I experienced daily surprises and the outcome depended on the decisions of others. Some things in life you can control while others are out of your hands. What should you do in the latter case? Accept it if a situation is out of your control and the only thing you can do is control your reaction. You cannot control the weather, for example, on a day you planned a big outside party or celebration. All you can do is accept the rain, adjust to the change and try to enjoy yourself despite it. Life does not end because of one little storm. I am not saying you should remain stoic in the face of all difficulties standing with arms crossed while drowning in the rain. What I am saying is that you should prepare yourself for those situations and focus on what you can control. The best piece of advice I have ever received, one that has brought me tremendous peace to my life, is to let go of the illusion of control. Release the stress associated with things out of your control starting by thinking of them less. Worrying will not change the situation. Try to relax, say a prayer and have faith that things will work out in the end. “ Let’s reflect, reset and reconnect.
