Surely it has happened to you that you expect a lot from a certain situation and, when facing reality and not having exactly those results, you have felt frustration and disappointment. Learning to manage expectations is fundamental, as it can help you develop a vision that is more in line with reality, bringing you well-being and bringing you closer to the fulfilling life you long for.
As human beings, we tend to develop patterns of high demands that are often far from reality and make us feel that we do not have enough skills to achieve the goals we have set for ourselves.Â
Likewise, sometimes we put all our hopes in the people around us and we expose ourselves to disappointments. And if our expectations are not realistic, we will often suffer disappointments.
Today, I would like to invite you to learn about some keys that will help you manage expectations in the right way so that you can build your future and create healthy emotional bonds.
5 keys to managing expectations properly
Keeping in mind that life does not always happen as we expect and that we must place our hopes in what we can control, is fundamental to properly managing expectations. Below, you will find 5 keys to having expectations that are more in line with reality.Don’t stick to unrealistic ideas
We have grown up with some unrealistic ideas and expect everything in our lives to work according to premises such as the following: – Life has to be fair. – Everyone has to like me. – The people I love must think and act like me. – I have to achieve everything I set out to do. – People must always understand me. – I must do everything right. – If I try hard enough, everything I want will happen. – People can change for me.Do not expect what is beyond your control.
Achieving what we desire demands our effort, it is not enough just to wish for it. If you set expectations based on the resources you have to make this become a reality, you will depend on yourself to achieve your goals and not on luck or third parties.Be realistic and prudent
Cultivating a positive and hopeful attitude is essential to achieving your dreams. However, taking for granted that everything will happen as you imagine it, does not guarantee that it will. Remaining cautious will keep you from disappointment.Leave room to be surprised
Having a plan to achieve our goals is important, but we can’t expect everything to work out according to a script written by us. Many times life can pleasantly surprise us and it is also important to be open to what life presents us with.Focus on the present
Although your expectations are projected into the future, it is important to focus on the present and the actions you can take to materialize everything you long for. Undoubtedly, waiting less and taking more initiative is the most certain path to your dreams without suffering great disappointments. While it is important to have big dreams, you cannot expect everything to happen by magic. If you have a goal, plan and work consistently to achieve it. You may also be interested in:The requirements for success
We all dream of being successful, but being able to achieve our goals has some requirements that some people are not willing to meet because they only want to do what they like. However, it is important to keep in mind that things are not always the way we want them to be, but even from what we don’t like we can learn valuable lessons. Today, I invite you to be open to knowledge and to work towards your goals without losing sight of reality. Find in my podcast valuable tools to learn how to manage expectations and to get closer and closer to the fulfilling life you long for.
